What I would like to ask is ~ Speak to me regarding relationships.... are there pre-agreed to relationships that have great meaning or do we flow in and out of relationships based on our energy, wants, situations? Are there any relationships that are just meant to be or not meant to be?

Thanks! Lynn

Thank you for seeking us out to inquire about this life structure called ­ relationships. Indeed, this can be complex. We sense in you, specifically a deeply rooted spiritual sense and so we will answer you in that manner.

This is a prayer that we find reconnects one within themselves, to their high-innerself. We would say,

Furthermore we would add that, the importance of the small unspoken thoughts and deeds are what are important now, especially during these times - to be able to say I love you, to be able to show unconditional love. Self worth is very important and that is why it is necessary to have people around you who are positive. Relationships are a constantly changing dynamic. And yes, there are those that are meant to be together and they do come together when the energies are in alignment. But in a relationship it is being accountable to oneself for one's own actions that truly matters and how you choose handle this sends messages to your partner. To have a core that goes beyond your own limits allows you to be limitless. Your relationship with God is a direct one and a personal one. Only by dealing directly with 'our' individual sense of God can we redesign this hectic world we live in and the situations that arise in everyday living and within your relationships.

No one person is in control of others. No one person should seek to control another person's life, decisions or choices. No one is here to intervene on behalf of anyone. Making mistakes and learning to move beyond them is part of the learning process. This is what makes the dynamics of relationship so challenging. You want to be heard without saying what you feel and you don't say how you feel because you are worried about how that will be taken by your partner. Doesn't that sound familiar? Indeed, so.

You must live in the 'here and now' and allow others the same respect and freedom in connecting to their truth. You have to be able to hear them, just as you would like them to hear youŠ it is up to each person not to interfere and to allow each other person to know that what they are doing is right for them, because it is their choice at that moment. Each person must allow himself or herself to make their own mistakes and to learn from the consequences of those mistakes. Be there to be supportive. Be there to listen. Now, doesn't that just irk you when you have to watch someone make a mistake that you know was just going to be a mistake, and don't you then just find ways of saying "I told you so," with out saying "I told you so" and has that ever really worked? We all must learn to accept and live in our 'here and now'. Live in the present and move toward the future. Let go of those things that really don't matter.

There is always a battle between the flesh and spirit, or the Mortal Mind and Divine Mind, that pushes and pulls you. What you need versus what you want. The flesh has desires that are based in Mortal Mind and the spirit has needs that are based in Divine Mind. You are the deciding factor. What you choose to do is the dividing factor which will determine the outcome you experience.

Indeed, you want to be loved, but in your way. And you partner cannot read your mind, now can they ­ or perhaps they can sense what you are feeling and thinking. This is something that can add to the difficulty of relationships. Indeed, yes, it can.

When you let the flesh rule you, when Mortal Mind becomes what you focus on, you find that you can get moody, temperamental, edgy and touchy. Sound familiar? This is because you instinctively know that what you are doing is not the best option. It is based in ego. It is not what God would have wanted you to do because it is based in the 'here and now' with no concern to the impact that decision is going to have.

Control is an important factor in our every day lives. Everyday incidences have very strong impacts on the people around you. Oftentimes what you say is NOT heard by those around you as you might have intended it. Then there are those times when the individual might think he or she knows best for someone else. And really, do you not think it is best to respect someone for having their own thoughts? Your relationship should be an adventure. Enjoy the challenges and make them count for something significant. Find the positive resolve.

If you run from a relationship you may always be running. Now, this is not to say that sometimes it may be best to leave an abusive relationship, but even these serve as lessons and you have to learn to be empowered to have proper boundaries and to know what is good for you and what is not. We are NOT saying you attract these types of negative events to you, as we do not promote this belief. First and foremost you have free will based in Divine Perfection in essence, deed, thought and action. How can anything based in Divine unconditional love, universal knowing and awareness, not manifest the perfection of its being? Simply put, it cannot.

You can create, manifest, and enjoy whatever reality you choose. This is the unique gift of the 'human aspect' as it applies to the application of free-will. There are times when significant interactions occur because through a series of events they interact but you have a choice to engage those interactions or not. Once you learn to manage negative conflict you can move away from those dynamics by recognizing the patterns that would lead up to them.

Learn to forgive yourself so you can then forgive others. Do not judge yourself to be a bad person who is hopelessly trapped. You are never trapped. Remember your thoughts create your life-situation, in other words, how you have been taught to view yourself in relationship to others has taken you to where you are and you can change this. This human experience is VERY much about the challenge, about the trial and error and about learning from the mistake and letting it go. IT IS ABOUT THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE. Relationships are just another tool to learn from.

Think of this simple thing, does not a tree, which shares its root system and pulls nutrients from the soil, share a trunk and a foundation? In any relationship there is usually the same foundation - the search for validation and similarity and strength. People come together and they grow together as long as they are BOTH nurtured. Then you grow, as does the tree, branching out at various specific times in your lineal growth process in different directions. Needing more light and more room for growth you may pull away from the trunk and reside yourself as a Willow branch does when it gets too heavy and pulls away, re-rooting it self in the soil. You are no different. Growth is not shared, it is individualized.

We grow together, and apart. Some may say, "Well I know of relationships that have been successful and happy for long periods of time." Well, yes you may. Their energy and fit or basic needs might be different than yours. What is right for another is not always what is right for someone else. This is why it is important to recognize the validation you seek is always within. It always has been . You are of the knowing, created in it, and expressed through it.

Sometimes in a relationship you wonder where you lost yourself on your journey. Only you can answer your own questions and all anyone can do is use that information to try and make better choices. Finding your answers is often painful but in the end will it be worth it to you? Each good choice you make, no matter how hard, starts to right the history of bad choices you have made and this will go for your child as well. To find your way out of this you have to have a foundation to fall back on and this would be your sense of faith and personal belief.

Some soul-mates travel through lifetimes and then they meet and bond again, always successfully because this is about the dynamic of the continuation of the learning process and completing their bond. Love is a very strong bond. It is based in purity and is a true gift that one can give another. Both people within a union of relationship seek the same thing; they seek increase their consciousness and let go of old patterns of defenses by being nurtured and loved unconditionally. You must surrender yourself to the experience and believe it to be so. This way you create the thought that will seed the positive experience you are seeking. When you shape your thought through unconditional love you seed that within your interpersonal dynamic.

Believe you are worthy of the perfection of love and you will find it to be so.