There is little you can do about many of the events that happen in your life but there is one major you thing you do have control over and that is by re-adapting to how you react to those untimely and unexpected events in your life once they do happen.

There are still racists, hate-mongers and those who divide you against each other for their own reasons. And what are these reasons? Money and power. There will always be someone who has something to say about you, or what you do or the way you look and those people are only truly speaking about themselves when they react in these ways to you. Being who you are - the unique and 'special you' - this is 'the you' that needs to be celebrated and embraced. Be proud of who you are.

Peer group pressures within any group make you want to conform. Many times like-thinkers group together to reinforce their own belief systems, and the reason they gather together is because they know that at some fundamental level there is something missing and that 'something' is inherently wrong with their perspectives and thinking. Are they really happy and fulfilled or does this group 'reinforced belief-system' make them feel like they belong to something greater than themselves, 'band-aiding,' if you will, their own lack of self-fulfillment? Never feel self-conscious about asking a question or about being different. More than likely the same question you are thinking about, someone else is also thinking about but their fear is preventing them from asking and anyone who would think that your question is stupid or irrelevant is suffering from some form of lackage within themselves or they would not be judging you. And if you are different in some way be proud of that and embrace it. Anyone who would make fun of you because of your differences knows that there is something hidden within themselves that they fear others will see, and in order to hide that part of themselves they attack you - hoping to put anyone off from looking too closely at them and seeing their true face.

Everyone of you has done something wrong and at times each of you feel that what you are feeling is wrong, but then after thinking on this you dismiss it, thinking that it is not your fault because you were taught to feel that way, or your were treated in such a way that you can place accountability on something outside yourself when, in fact, everything begins and ends with you and your thoughts.

You, yes you, can get back your life by reformatting old programs by learning newer adapted programs for achievement. These new schematics, based in new ways of thinking through positive re-scripting of your old behaviors, can awaken you to limitless possibilities. Sounds simple? It is. But you have to want to do it. You have to want to better life.

Do you want a real life that is based on getting to know the real you, or do you want to continue to make decisions based on what happened to you in the past that you keep running from, repeating scripts based in fear-based reality? You cannot trust the past. As time passes people have a way of reformatting the past to fit their present life situations and they also reformat the past so they can more easily deal with it.

Being locked into old programming keeps you from realizing your potential. By learning to rethink proactively and to consciously make informed decisions you can make good choices that you will benefit from, as will your life. You can realize how easy life is and how abundant your creativity can be.

Do you realize you do not have to stay at home and be 'the care-taker,' that you can go out and create your own career and your own life achievements? But to do this you have to know who you are. In the process of defining this you will make many discoveries about yourself and how you need to think and act when you deal with other people. You may find that you are uncomfortable with how you react to things and there may be aspects of yourself you do not like, but you feel you cannot change because to do so would mean that there would be unpleasant consequences for you from your family and friends. Maybe so, but would it not be far worse to live a lifetime not giving yourself a chance to be truly the most you can be by being honest with yourself?

This life is a ongoing growth process. You cannot use foul language and think confrontational thoughts because this will just keep getting mirrored back at you through your experiences and if you focus on your past that too will get mirrored back at you. Life is about learning to overcome disadvantages and turn them into proactive life benefits that help direct you to a point of more meaningful 'integration of self'. You can, of course, stay the course and remain much the same as you are, but is this truly what you want out of life?

Be a listener that infers positive outcomes from the inferences other people make when they talk to you or you overhear conversations. Do not take these things out of the context of the other person's life. Look at them as dimensional dynamics of your own aspects of self. You can turn all things to 'the good' and you can find good if you are willing to look for it and see it.

The 'hidden context' of your behavior is the past dynamic you hang onto from your past experiences that keeps you locked into a place of stagnation. The 'hidden context' of your motivation can be negatively based in your past-learned patterns of behavior. For example, if you think you are not competent then you should say, "I was not competent", and acknowledge that old programmed thought and belief about yourself. Then state your new program which would be, "I am competent and I can make good decisions," then visualize the positive results that come from being competent and making good decisions.

Another would be, "I let fear control me," and this is your 'hidden context' that is hidden in your motivations that keeps you from achieving. State your new program, 'I am fearless, I am strong, and I believe in myself," then visualize the outcome from believing in yourself and see the positive results in your mind. This can be constructed in your reality. You create your own reality. Yes, indeed. You have the power to redesign your life and make it what you want it to be. It is the lack of personal fulfillment that keeps people feeling sad, trapped and lonely. You can change this.

The strength of 'hidden contexts' are very strong in shaping how you act, believe and view yourself. This is why it is important to acknowledge them and get them out of your head and your thoughts and release them by replacing them with new scripts for success. When you force yourself to get over your personal issues you will find it freeing. It may be difficult, but you can make your own life better.

So often your life has been limited by the power you give your past over your present. Think about this. How often do you repeat what you have learned from past situations and how often do you base how you react to others on those old programs when, in fact, all this is doing is keeping you locked into place? Others may not really care or be effected by how you think about them or how you feel about them. When you put too much weight on something it is usually because it is hurting some unhealed aspect within yourself.

You can change your way of being! When you see things clearly you make them happen. YOU can create in a proactive way your own wondrous life dynamic. When you think about your life and the old programs you hang onto that keep you locked in a fear-based life THANK them (those people) for the hurt, then thank them for the life lesson, and finally lay out a plan to rework these old hurts into new, positive life dynamics.

1. Acknowledge that old dynamic that keeps you limited and locked in place.
2. Thank them that have hurt you and for the hurt they caused you.
3. Thank them for the lesson that came from the pain of that hurt.
4. Move on. Lay out a plan for success and what you want to do. Rework those hurts and let them go.
   You cannot return to the past. It is over and no longer exists. Move on to your new life.

Reprogram your old conceptions. Remember these things were not about you, they were about the other people and how those people mirrored back at you areas of your life you needed to learn about.

Remember: Visualize, then DO.

Michel through David Reid Lowell