The words you speak have power over your life and how you view yourself in relationship to those around you. When you use words that are negative and pejorative you do violence to yourself and hurt yourself.

You must choose non-violent words of expression and find ways to express yourself that are not threatening to yourself or others. Becoming non-violent in thoughts and actions is a life long task of improvement. Learning to have non-violent thoughts about those you feel have harmed you or let you down will help you shape your thoughts into thoughts of concern and tolerance for your own self and others. Once you realize and then recognize the feeling and sensations you experience within your body when you have violent thoughts about others you can then begin to reshape these thoughts and that will help you become physically and mentally healthier. When you begin to realize and recognize the patterns of violent actions that stem from violent thoughts - as your thoughts condition the way you act out - you can find newer ways to express your divergent and conflicted feelings over people, events, and life-situations through healthier behavioral choices.

The words you use during these times will shape how others see you and react to you. When you are unsure of how you should act or react, step back and watch those around you. If yaou feel uncertain then this is a signal to you to disengage and step out of the interaction. When you begin to see the connection between what other people say through their choice of words and how those words effect how you react to them you then can apply that information and awareness to you and how you respond to others.

As you come to understand that words are the tools each individual uses to tell others about themselves, about their education, about their life story and about who they are you will begin to become more balanced in your responses to situations that normally would engage you. Each individual should have the desire to transcend the perceptions of who they are and how they are perceived. When you begin to look into yourself and see how your words design your life and the subsequent reaction others have to you, you can transform the dynamics that hold you in place and block you from greater success, popularity and self-confidence.

There will always be someone that does not like you. Why? There are as many reasons as there are people and varied personalities. But if you are true to yourself and act reasonable then you can always live with yourself and what you have done and said that has shaped your life. If you go about life being difficult and making enemies then you will find that the individuals you acted in a judgmental way toward may, in turn, impact your life and the lives of those around you in ways that you would not want. Put aside your own fears and anxieties. Allow each person to find their own way of communicating and focus on your own self and the power you have to effectively design your life. In so doing you can co-create a more positive life for yourself and those around you.

There are those, and you know who they are, that come into your life and tell you all the things that are wrong with them, all the things that are going on in their life and how hopeless it all feels to them. And when they are through and they have vented enough they sigh and go home to their life feeling better, leaving you sitting there holding onto all the things they just dropped into your life, you feel tired, conflicted and over-whelmed and this is because you just took responsibility for them and their life-situations that they just unloaded onto you.

Then there are those people you run into who are happy and always seem to smile and you have become so jaded you wonder why they are like that. How can they just be so happy; something must be wrong with them? You see, a piece of moldy bread makes the rest of the loaf bad. If you surround yourself with negative people then you, too, will have difficultly being around pleasant people.

It is through the words that you speak and hear that you come to shape yourself. The way others speak to you early on shape how you react to certain words and phrases. This is conditioned through your early years and it also shaped the vocabulary you now have which is normal for you to speak.

Then there are those who have potty mouths and curse often and a lot. What does this say about them and about you? If you listen to someone gossip and spread rumors about another what does this say about you and about them? Is this how you would have them treat you? And more so, is this how they think you would treat them? Remember, people judge others in accordance with their own standard of behavior and what is acceptable to them. If you associate with people who have low standards of behavior then others will think you too have the same standard and more so to the point, how will this improve your own self-image? Choose a better way of being.

You can only set appropriate boundaries of behavior for yourself and one of the greatest tools you can use are your words. If you are lost and do not know what you want to attain for yourself and for your life then it is time to step back and look at what influences are around you that are blocking your ability to think clearly. If you become attached to the image of who you are and the goal you seem to have that escapes you then you have to ask yourself what joy is there in this process? If you do not have joy in your daily life and you are being pulled into negative interactions that are too consuming look at the interactions you are having and how these interactions are shaped by the concerns and words of the people you interact with.

There are people who are used to living in crisis. Their health is always bad, they are always in a rush and disorganized. If they are in a rush and disorganized then this tells you about their thought processes and how they live their life, how they choose to live their life. Is this how you want to live your life? There are people who always tell you graphically about their latest illness, with blow by blow descriptions. Then there are those who are always quitting their jobs and talking about their bosses and you see others leave the job, yet they are still there. And what about you? How do these things shape your life? Indeed. You can have joy in your life and still be concerned about others but not responsible for others.

If you start to find one good thing in your day and give it voice and use positive words to affirm that then each day will get better because you will begin to feel better. If you say, "What a wonderful day today is! This is going to be an easy day for me," as you go through the day you will find that it will become easy as you already have set the idea and expectation for the day in advance. If you use your words to describe the day through positive affirmation then you are projecting the day ahead and creating that outlook for easy interactions with others.

Even in grief there is joy for it is held within how you express it and how you look at what is occurring. Even in death there is a way of viewing the process outside yourself. If you are ill and dying many would become caught up in how they feel and what is going to happen to them and they dwell on this, just waiting for death to claim them. But what about those you know, what about those who love you, what about those who even interact with you at the market? How will they feel when they no longer have you in their life? And how will your death affect their life with loss and their grieving process? Caring about something greater than yourself can give you the motivation to survive longer and perhaps leave a good feeling imparted to those who survive you. And what if you lose your job and you are in your fifties and have a family? Is it not better to pull together and find the affirmation that now is the time to reshape and rethink your life and approach to it? What good will it do you if you get up in the negative affirmations of complaining and depression?

If you think that you are grateful for the time you have had and the time you will have and you use it to effectively co-create something positive for yourself and those around you then you can reflect the gratitude you have for the potential of doing something more. This is a really good lesson. You do not get what you want in life, usually you do not even get what you need unless you step up and create that for yourself by allowing yourself to be worthy of a beneficial life. You do get what you believe in.

Your words give you hope and they create the context of your life. The conversations you have reflect your inner self and the interests you would aspire to attain. There are those who have just given up on life and themselves. You can hang onto these people and these beliefs or you can focus on yourself and the Divine Co-Creative Process you have with God to bring change into your life and by allowing you to adapt to a better way of living.

Start with the simple process of taking modest approaches to speaking with words that affirm and lift you up. Catch yourself when you start to judge and catch yourself when you start to gossip and move beyond that and walk away from such interactions. You can choose who you want to be and how you want to be perceived. Many people look outside themselves to blame and assign accountability for failure, when failure is a necessary part of achievement. There is a way to find inner-peace and to co-exist with others in an allowing and non-confrontational way. And know that you cannot be affected by others unless you bring their reality and perceptions of the world into your life.

You can cause change by peaceful disruption and allowing. This simply means to understand that you are connected to others as they are the reflection of some unhealed part of yourself which you can release by acknowledging them in a calm and tolerant manner. You do not have to dissociate for rebuke, confront or correct. Just allow them to flow through you by acknowledging them with understanding and love and not getting pulled into their control. If you just step back, hear them and allow them their presence, they will distance themselves from you when they realize that you are not going to feed into their intensity or dynamic. Many people set about to dismiss or reject others totally and this is their control that they are projecting which is saying that you must conform to what I want and how I want you to be. If you just see someone for who they are and hear them for what they say and peacefully stand your ground, keeping your boundaries in tack, they will distance themselves from you once they cannot pull you into their way of being.

Those who dismiss others and those who attempt to control others through their actions alienate even themselves from their understanding of humanity. Words can create a sense of complacency that creates anxious and urgent sensations within the individual using them. The words you choose entrap many people in meaningless sensations of futility and daily drudgery of life. This is why it is important not to feed into negative based ways of expression. True satisfaction comes in learning how to communicate your needs through non-threatening words that say to another you are centered and tolerant yet informed and aware. Attainment of power or prestige through the control and manipulation of others, by threatening their material subsistence or wellbeing that would impact how they survive, pay their mortgages and rent and provide for their families does little to sustain that person with a sense of true satisfaction. These types of actions will intrinsically leave that type of person empty and alone when what they really want is to be included, respected and needed. For how truly satisfying can it be to act like this?

The processes of Yamptha, the attainment of a passionate life created though the use of words to generate happiness is basically demonstrated through:

1. Choosing words that create a sense of satisfaction.
2. Establishing a use of words that speak to your authenticity.
3. Revaluating the way you commutate to others and how this shapes their perception of you.
4. Using words to communicate that reflect compassion.
5. Using words to communicate that define your boundaries while being tolerant of others.

The process of being aware of the power of words is not only defined by what you choose to say and how you go about saying it but how you allow others to communicate to you. There is a spirituality to words and this has a direct impact on your work through everyday life and how you work through the processes of recovery. Your words even shape your body language and this has a great influence on how other's react to you, even on your physical approach to them. Many times you begin to react to someone when you see them and how they approach you. This also happens when you approach other people. The words you have used though your life shape how you feel about yourself and this shapes your demeanor. Not many think of this connection between words, their power and their own presentation of self and they should.

This form of non-verbal communication began when you were yelled at in harsh tones and with harsh words for not standing a certain way, walking a certain way, or being late or feeling rushed and the fear of chastisement. If you hear sounds of love and compassion and support then more than likely you stand taller and carry yourself with pride. Non-verbal communication is shaped by verbal communication and the tones that are imparted to the words that are spoken.

Stress is exchanged through the power of words and tones to the physical body and metabolism. If you learn to express yourself in calm tones and with words that enhance your communication your body feels loved and stress is reduced. Being optimistic and co-creating from optimism changes the way others react to you and how you feel physically.

Most people are aware that there is a connection between body-spirit-mind but rarely do they do more than give this a glancing thought. What you think and HOW you think shaped how you communicate and how you choose to communicate through your choice of words directly affects your body, your spirit and your mind. People who have been fighting disease have been known to right their diagnosis by changing how they think and express themselves. Optimists release much of the stress brought into their life by others. Pessimists usually have a harder time righting themselves. Each person goes though a time when they feel vulnerable and isolated or alone. Knowing that you have power to reaffirm a beneficial realignment can change the dynamics of your life. By using words that are optimistic and hopeful you can increase your potential for a joyfully abundant life.

Many people feel disconnected from themselves (their identity of who they are) and from their bodies. You are constantly being pushed to do more, be more, attain more and these material things are not substantive enough to fulfill the individual so they look more and more to that which is outside them to define them. This is not natural to the physical body, the spirit or the mind. The demands of the everyday world are great and exact a toll on the individual. To make life easier the individual oftentimes succumbs to what the majority 'think' or the behavior that is dominant within the workplace and the everyday life they function within. This is limiting as it does nothing to establish a strong self-identity that is based on anything else than the perceptions and expectations of others. The body needs time to rejuvenate and heal and restore. The spirit needs time to rest and nurture the individual. The mind needs time off to think clearly. When one or more of these factors are impacted the result can be catastrophic for the individual. It is no wonder that heart disease, sleeplessness, and fatigue are more common than ever. So, where do you go from here?

Balance. Finding a place or time to have balance and harmony within your life is vitally important to your well being. Taking charge of those things that empower you gives you power over your life and health. The foremost thing to start with is your perception of life that is shaped through your words and how you communicate your needs at home and at work.

When you reconnect to yourself and your higher self by learning to communicate to others and reshape your perception of self you can transform your life in miraculous ways. The power of grace, the way of joy and tolerance, mastery of the synchronicity of that which seems impossible is all possible when you become responsible for your choice of reaction and how you communicate. There is such joyful, abundant potential that already is waiting to be expressed from your internal experiences. All you have to do is choose to express that love.